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From: Gunars Neiders
Date: 19 Oct 2007
Time: 13:01:21 -0500
Remote Name: 67.171.0.68
Lynne, when something negative happens or we think of something negative such as stuttering we can have either *shame*, an unhealthy negative emotion, or *regret*, a healthy negative emotion. An unhealthy negative emotion: 1) leads us to have a great deal of psychic pain and discomfort, 2) motivate us to engage in self-defeating behavior (such as avoidance), and/or 3) prevent us from doing what we need to do to reach our goals (e.g. going after the job or partner we want). A healthy negative emotion, on the other hand: 1) alerts us that our goal is blocked but inspires us to pursue it (if our goal is to speak more fluently and communicate better, it inspires us to find proper therapy), 2) it motivates us to keep on pursuing the erstwhile goal such as getting a job, and/or 3) encourages us to persist in getting to our goal, it is a reminder.