Things I Learned from Therapy

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Re: Question

From: Pam
Date: 11 Oct 2009
Time: 15:10:14 -0500
Remote Name: 67.248.58.128

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Hi Alissa, no, my stuttering was not an open topic with my family. It was NEVER talked about, which made it even harder for me to deal with. I thought I must be really defective or they allfeel sorry for me since no one ever talked about it openly. My father did yell at me, to stop talking like that.My siblings probably heard his disapproval, so they didn't bring it up either. As mentioned in previous replies, I only had speech for one year in school. When I was moved to Catholic school, it was not provided as a free service. My father did not wish to pay for me to have private therapy.Years alter, as an adult, my mom has said she wished she had the guts to stand up to my dad and insist that I get help, becasue she knew I needed it. I think she felt guilty for a long time. She and I never talk about it now. I did not have therapy again until three years ago, after over 30+ years of trying to hide or deny the stuttering. It was tough finally coming to terms with it. It has been a painful journey, because it opened up lots of other things in my life, but things that needed to be explored as well. Be aware, that if you work with someone who has years of covert experience, the acceptance part will be huge, possibly more important than working on speech production or fluency techniques.


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