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From: Pam
Date: 20 Oct 2009
Time: 23:31:35 -0500
Remote Name: 67.248.58.128
Elsa, first off, thanks for being so honest in that you are uncomfortable with doing voluntary stuttering., It is tough. You feel out-of-control and vulnerable, but that is the very thing you NEED to feel so that you can relate better to your clients, especially kids.And the rest of your honesty was so refreshing.We are partners, and should admit to each other when we feel intimidated by something. Your clients will love you for that. As for the 9 year old with so much going on, I can so relate. My home life was hugely chaotic, with an alcoholic mom and abusive dad. I was the oldest of six, and was often the caregiver. I too had so much anger as a kid, but no healthy way to express it. And I was very ashamed of my stuttering. I felt defective and that message was reinforced too much. Maybe this kid needs to feel supported and accepted above all. It is OK to stutter - perhaps if you tell him that ad he begins to believe it, he can relax the grip stuttering may have over him. A lot of the anger may be because he feels he has no control over anything in his life, similar to how I felt. At least with acceptance of stuttering, he may be able to relax enough with that to realize he is still OK as a person, and then begin to tackle the next steps.