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From: Chris
Date: 20 Oct 2009
Time: 20:17:25 -0500
Remote Name: 76.183.230.202
Dave, wow, thanks so much for your kind comments and insight. I think you've tagged the center of this stuff as well as anyone I've heard -- overcoming the fear just leads to the fact that stuttering is merely just how we talk and not what we're about. I truly believe if the truth were known, EVERY individual is motivated as much by fear and consequence to avoid hurt or pain rather than reward or incentive of something to gain. Stuttering just becomes a easy excuse to blame for our fears of many things. One of the old staples of lending is to turn a loan down for the real reason (i.e. poor credit, cash flow, collateral, etc.) and not just some issue that you mention BECAUSE then that individual may actually come back and remedy that "issue" and then what are you going to do? Sorta like the stutterer who suddenly finds himself more accepting, more fluent, more in control and finds himself saying, "Gee whiz, NOW what am I going to do -- I've got to be friendly, well prepared, engaging, energetic, etc. ..no more stuttering as an excuse! That's what overcoming fear does -- creates a interesting vacuum that we can fill with positive choices or negative choices. Dave, thanks again for your well thought out comments. Chris