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From: Scott Palasik
Date: 01 Oct 2010
Time: 15:37:50 -0500
Remote Name: 131.95.172.211
Pam, Again, thank you very much for sharing your very personal thoughts. I have to congratulate you on your ability to be in touch with those thoughts and to dig down and get to some of the reasons for your pain. You brought up a wonderful and challenging word... Forgiveness... Now in an effort of fairness I will share, if that is okay, my father was an abusive man. I held on to the anger I felt for him for so many years until one day less than a year ago I found myself yelling at him... Yelling a man who was alone, a man who could not face his own pain and suffering accept a the bottom of a bottle. That being said, for the first time in my life I started to listen to his words and his actions. What he held onto and what he couldn't "forgive" in himself which led him to the path of self-destruction which effected my family. That all being said, I never got to talk with him about my anger, however that is okay. Forgiveness for me being able to sit with the pain and react to it differently. Not hide it, sit with it and let the tears, the anger, and all the messiness arise...Then move forward...Simple truth is that memories can't be hidden, pain always comes back to find us if we try to hide it. Forgiveness is the challenge. I again need to congratulate you on having the willingness to climb that mountain and being open to your pain filled thoughts. Small steps eventually add up to distance, ask any infant learning to walk... Have a wonderful day and thank you. Scott