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From: Alan (to Jerrie)
Date: 09 Oct 2011
Time: 07:24:07 -0500
Remote Name: 95.144.71.224
Hi Jerrie, Thank you, so much, for your generous feedback. I’ve lost count of the number of interesting exchanges that we have enjoyed via this annual forum. :-) Persons who stutter (and, indeed, those who do not stutter) develop a mental blue-print of themselves. This personal concept is influenced by what they consider to be their failures and successes; their strengths and weaknesses; their competency and worth; and the way in which others have reacted towards them. Our thoughts, feelings and behaviours are consistent with that self-determined identity, irrespective of the reality of that image. Our personal opinions about ourselves are more influential than facts. The self-image is such an important factor in determining our quality of life and in effecting change. What we believe about ourselves moulds the way in which we perceive the world. It influences our educational and employment paths and determines our relationships and social interaction. But, most importantly, when we believe that we cannot do something, then it's almost certain that we will not do it. Many of us have difficulty letting go of the past. We cling onto our old self-image because we (and those around us) derive a sense of security from the familiar face that it presents. Self-concept is at the very core of our life experience - it can cause us to resist attempts to embrace change, even though it may be to our advantage to do so. The moment I relinquished my old self-image, I discovered incredible opportunities for growth. Thomas Edison wrote: "If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves." I wholeheartedly agree. Jerrie, like you, I was also hindered by fear, anxiety and self-doubt for so many years. I’m delighted that you, too, have been able to take charge of your thoughts and live the life of your choice. May you continue to go from strength to strength. If you have an opportunity, please listen to my interview with Pam. As the subject of the first male podcast, on a site created exclusively for women, it was (in Star Wars parlance) a huge privilege to “BOLDLY GO WHERE NO MAN HAD GONE BEFORE” :-) I would welcome any feedback that you might have (via the Stuttering Rockstar blog). I’m not sure when I shall next visit the USA but I will certainly make every effort to arrange a meeting with you if the circumstances permit. Jerrie, it’s always a pleasure to communicate with you. Kindest regards Alan