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From: David Shapiro
Date: 05 Oct 2011
Time: 18:57:03 -0500
Remote Name: 152.30.155.29
Hi Michael, You’ve raised some excellent questions and addressed some sensitive issues. I see that others have given good advice, shared relevant data, and left you with questions to ponder. I won’t repeat any of this. Your post resonates with me, however, more on a personal than a professional basis. Not at all minimizing the realities of stuttering, I recommend that you keep in the dating scene until you find the right girl. That girl will see you for who you are and will see that your stuttering is a part of who you are, even when you are tempted to define yourself on the basis of stuttering alone. She might even puzzle over why you have chosen to “advertise” that one aspect of yourself. It is said that love can conquer all. I’m a believer. When it happens, you’ll know it. Let me tell you a little story. Many years ago, I was where you are. I wondered if someone, anyone, could see through my stuttering, because I couldn’t. Then I found an amazing girl who didn’t seem to notice that I stuttered. Truly I couldn’t believe that such a talented, beautiful girl with the bluest eyes would be interested in me. She’s been my girlfriend for nearly 30 years, and we’re married too. We have two amazing kids, now young adults. Challenges have come and gone, but the joy is that we get to face them together. Every burden becomes lightened when it is shared. Why not share them with the one you love? One of the respondents suggested “stutter on.” I’d suggest keep looking so that you find the right one. She’s out there. Good luck. David