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From: Ellen-Marie Silverman
Date: 18 Oct 2011
Time: 13:51:13 -0500
Remote Name: 205.188.116.198
[[Hi, again and it is great to hear/read that you are continuing to send your message! I am wondering how you define discernment, observing (from Living in the NOW) and mindful. I ask my clients who want to travel this particular journey to be able to observe rather than to be "inside" an interaction, stuttering, etc. which then allows them to decrease/delete the emotional attachments/reactions. "Allowing" is the very first part of my approach. I look forward to hearing from you!}} >>> First of all, Janet, thank you for your continued interest in what I have to say. But, I was not sharing my experience "Living in the NOW," which may be what you are using as a structure for the therapy you offer, which is what Eckhart Tolle teaches. I am writing about my experience practicing mindfulness using shamatha-vipassana meditation practice as a way to calm and clear the mind in preparation for clear seeing. >>> In the book I am writing, "Mindfulness & Stuttering. Using Eastern Strategies to Speak with Greater Ease," I go much more deeply into explaining how these mindfulness techniques that I have been using these past 15 years help me live and speak with greater ease. >>> I don't know anything about the approach you are using other than what you shared here, but, from that brief account, it seems that while there may be some similarities between our approaches, there may be at least one major differences. For instance, the meditation methods I practice do not encourage any form of repression. They encourage openness, acceptance, inclusion. So, for example, rather than "deleting" emotions associated with stuttering, we acknowledge and stay with them, learning how to manage them (I wrote about that in an introductory way in a paper I presented at the 2005 ISAD Conference entitled, Shenpa Stuttering, and Me.) I think acknowledging and bringing our gentle awareness to emotions, all of them, is critical to learning how to speak with greater ease. >>> Anyway, Janet, I am not encouraging you or anyone to adopt what I do just because it works for me. I am only sharing what I have learned in enough detail (in the book) for someone to try it out to see whether it helps them. A fundamental learning for me that I presented in this paper is that the most important thing we can do to be as we wish to is to be: Present, Kind, and Diligent and that practicing shamatha-vipassana mindfulness medication helps. >>> Thank you and best wishes, Ellen-Marie Silverman