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From: Jonathan Wong
Date: 20 Apr 2010
Time: 16:18:54 -0500
Remote Name: 204.16.156.82
Sorry for the late reply. My son is pretty much the same as your son. socially - he hangs out and plays with relatives. Our teachers also assured us all is ok socially at school thru out the years. They report that he has a couple of people he talks to in class. But when I ask who he hangs out with out lunch, he says by himself. He never calls them or hangs out with them after school, weekends, or special events. My son has a way of flying under the radar. That worries me. My son also isnt too much into team sports (but neither was I at his age). I do introduce my son to many of the sport activities I do now. And he does ok. He does try his best to please dad. Hopefully that will make him more rounded out when he does decide to interact with others when playing sports. He makes every effort to make friends, but it seems his cluttering prevents him from sustaining a conversation. He usually has short answers and doesnt reciprocate conversation (something we've been working on for years-thus the NorCal meetup group Ive started). He is very friendly and cordial with people, he just has a hard time making conversation. Until last month, he never reached out and called anyone to hang out. It made me extremely happy that he called my best friend, out of the blue and on his own, to hang out with him and his son to play vid games. My son is 15 now. He will start HS next year. We decided to pull him out of public school and put him in a private Christian HS next year. I believe the public school is going to be to cruel to him (maybe thats the over protective parent I am), ie teasing, making him a social outcast. At this point we dont need his self esteem taking 10 steps back, especially since he has made such good progress with managing his cluttering. Being in a Christian enviroment will be more nurturing to his social needs... I hope. We have had positive experiences socially thru his church, where other kids would invite him to hang out, while at church and on occasion outside of church. But even with this, Jon still does not have a BFF yet.