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From: Alan Badmington (to Vickie)
Date: 10/7/02
Time: 3:40:09 PM
Remote Name: 195.92.67.71
Hi Vickie,
Thank you for your contribution.
You enquire how your son can prepare for saying his wedding vows? Well!, I am now a great advocate of positive thinking and positive visualization. Prior to a forthcoming speaking situation, I refuse to harbour negative thoughts or dwell upon past unpleasant experiences. Instead, I create positive images of how I wish to see myself speak.
If I think I am going to have difficulty - then I WILL experience difficulty. If I visualize myself speaking well, then I find that I, invariably, enjoy a successful outcome.
One further point - has your son considered joining Toastmasters? I have derived so much pleasure and confidence since enrolling with three public speaking clubs here in the UK. It will feel strange at first (seeing himself in such a role) but, if he can overcome the initial discomfort, I think it would be invaluable preparation for his wedding day (vows and speech).
I now find that I am totally at ease when speaking in such situations and seek every opportunity to rise to my feet. A far cry from my wedding day disappointment!
I wish him well.
Kindest regards
Alan Badmington