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Re: Question for Alan (Wedding Vows)

From: Alan Badmington
Date: 10/23/02
Time: 10:49:38 AM
Remote Name: 134.29.30.25

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Hi Sandra,

My aunt probably felt that she was being of assistance, although she is not generally known for her tact and understanding. As I have already said (elsewhere on this ISAD Online Forum), there is a huge lack of understanding about stuttering (both by the public and within families). I have long felt that we, as PWS, can do a great deal more to enlighten others. So it is perhaps unfair to criticise their actions when they respond to our difficulties.

I neither blame, nor hold any animosity towards my aunt. In the absence of any knowledge about stuttering behaviours, she reacted instinctively and did what she thought was appropriate.

The Alan Badmington of today would have dealt with such an incident in an entirely different manner. When the singing had ceased, I would have thanked the guests for their harmonious rendering and then continued to present my speech.

Did she save me any embarrassment? I don't think so - I feel that it caused me greater feelings of inadequacy, not being able to fulfil the bridegroom's speaking role. I sat down feeling humiliated.

I now enjoy a hectic diary of public speaking engagements (sometimes 3 times per week). I am totally at ease in front of groups - the larger the better. The irony is that I new regularly win contests in competition with fluent speakers. Maybe I was married ahead of my time? -please don't tell Babs that I said that.(smile)

Kindest regards

Alan Badmington


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