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From: Alan Badmington
Date: 10/21/03
Time: 5:05:49 AM
Remote Name: 195.92.67.67
Hi Becky,
Thank you for your contribution and generous comments.
Our fears about stuttering (and your fear of spiders) are merely thoughts in the mind. With very minor exceptions, there is no physical threat.
I learned to change my thinking; I learned to develop a positive attitude and, most importantly, I banished negative thoughts to the trash can. We can't prevent the latter entering our minds, but we can immediately replace them with more favourable thoughts. There are several methods of training oneself to acquire this skill. I NEVER dwell on anything negative and I am so careful about the words I use when I talk to myself.
If we avoid speaking situations and continue to practise word substitution, the fear levels attached to them will grow and grow. If we face them head-on, they will recede.
You ask for suggestions as to how persons who stutter may be helped to confront their fears and expand their comfort zones.
Firstly, I think it is important that they gain an understanding of the implications of avoidance and retaining the status quo.
Secondly, they should start their expansion gradually - attempting simple tasks in the first instance. Maybe including an occasional 'feared word' in their conversation when talking to persons with whom they are generally at ease (immediate family or friends). Although they may well encounter some difficulties, they are likely to experience successes as the fear level drops. They can then move on to more challenging things -it is a progressive journey.
(3) I derived immense benef it from support, particularly in the early stages. It is so important that we have someone there for us, to lend encouragement, if things do not go as well as planned.
(4) And finally, why not allow them to have sight of my paper?
May I wish you every success with your studies.
Kindest regards
Alan