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From: Liv Marit
Date: 12 Oct 2004
Time: 06:41:52 -0500
Remote Name: 62.97.250.9
Hi, Anita, a very happy birthday to you! Believe me,your best years are yet to come! It was very nice having the opportunity to meet again in Iceland recently. I also want to congratulate you on finally making your parents understand what a lovely person you are and also how their attitude harmed you in the past. I have also had the experience of being bullied and ridiculed by my mother (even if I don't stutter I guess she could always find something about me to be dissatisfied with.)I have tried to make her understand how I feel, but to no awail, as she thinks she is always right and she doesn't understand what I'm talking about. She is now 77 and is still going on bullying and ridiculing me and my family. Our last "conversation" last year ended in yelling and tears. You were very lucky to have so much self esteem left that you could go on with your life and build new relations, and you were also lucky in finding a good man relatively early. My self esteem was so low I made the wrong choices and lived in an extremely abusive marriage for ten years, thinking that I deserved it. Finally I woke up (but not before starting fearing for my life), and as you know I am happily married now, and feel that I am finally loved for who I am. In order to come this far I have had to break with my mother and instead build relations with people who love me and like me and who are important to me. Your parents are really lucky to have a daughter that never gave up making them understand. For me it will never happen I'm afraid. I wish your poem could be a warning to parents never to ridicule their children or bullying them, but love their children as they are. Hugs and kisses to you on your birthday, Anita, and let's never forget what wonderful girls we are!