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From: Woody
Date: 10/6/01
Time: 2:27:05 PM
Remote Name: 134.29.30.167
Thanks for your comment.
Certainly, the best way to work on simmering anger is with a therapist who knows how to deal with it. From the way you phrase the question, I am not sure that you allowed for that solution to the problem.
Without a therapist, friend, counselor, clergyman, or parent to tallk to -- which seems pretty dismal -- there are still a couple of things that can be helpful. Fantasies in which the angry person destroys his/her enemies can be helpful. When I was a boy I did a lot of that; I would walk in the woods hacking at bushes with a knife my father had given me, naming each bush with the name of my tormentor. Any act that is somewhat violent but does no actual harm -- punching a bag, cutting up something, shooting at a target -- can all provide a little relief.
Another, completely different, way to vent anger is to write a furious, scathing, obscene, scabrous letter to the tormentor and then burn it and blow the smoke in their direction. Sometimes, if you go to an NSA meeting, they might let you read such a letter to the group, but you have to feel safe in the group and that means that there has to be an understanding of confidentiality. Not all meetings provide this.