A Search for Fluency That Ended With Acceptance

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Well told tale with great insights into acceptance

From: Gunars K. Neiders
Date: 10/8/01
Time: 7:26:32 PM
Remote Name: 12.13.226.11

Comments

Craig,

I liked your tale told with such intense honestly, the first step in overcoming isolation. Both in the title and in the paper itself you demonstrate that you understand the importance of the role acceptance plays in stuttering therapy.

After I learned to accept my stuttering and unconditionally accept myself as a Fallible Human Being with mistakes and shortcomings, stuttering became simply a practical problem to solve. Learning to manage stuttering then became merely learning a skill, akin to learning to play tennis.

I view therapists as coaches who can show clients how to improve their game of managing struggling stuttering, disfluencies of long duration, and self-defeating emotions of anxiety, low frustration tolerance, fear, depression, helplessness/hopelessness, shame and guilt.

My questions to you are:

1. Now that you have accepted yourself have you tape recorded yourself to see how much, if any struggle or avoidances you have in your speech?

2. You write, "As of this writing I am attending relationship therapy, involved in what I feel is the first healthy relationship in years and stuttering." Are you involved in any stuttering therapy also?

Gunars

p.s. Good luck with the relationship.:-)


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