How To Help A Victim

If you know someone who is being stalked, here are ways you can help.

• Don’t be afraid to let your friend or family member know that you are concerned for her or his safety. Help your friend or family member recognize that she or he is being stalked. Tell them you see what is going on and that you want to help. Help them recognize that what is happening is not “normal” and that they deserve to feel safe.

• Acknowledge that she or he is in a very difficult and scary situation. Let your friend or family member know that it is not their fault that they are being stalked. Reassure them that they are not alone and that there is help and support out there.

• Remind her or him to avoid communication with the stalker. Giving the stalker any type of attention will motivate the stalker to continue stalking.

• Do not give out any information about the victim to the stalker. The stalker will utilize friends, family, and co-workers to obtain information about the victim. The stalker may disguise herself or himself as an old friend, a co-worker, or even a representative from a utility or credit card company. Do not give out any information to anyone without the victim’s permission.

• Be supportive. Listen to your friend or family member. Remember that it may be difficult for her or him to talk about the stalking. Let them know that you are available to help whenever they may need it and that you understand the seriousness of it. What they need most is someone who will believe and listen to them.

• Document anything you witness happening between the stalker and the victim.
  Including conversations from the victim sharing what has happened. This will be helpful if the victim decides to make a police report or file for a harassment restraining order or order for protection.

• Encourage her or him to talk to people who can provide help and guidance. Offer to go with her or him to talk to family and friends. If she or he has to go to the police, court or a lawyer, offer to go along for moral support.