Thanks To My Stutter, I'm Never Lost For Words

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Re: thanks to my stutter

From: Alan Badmington
Date: 14 Oct 2008
Time: 11:51:29 -0500
Remote Name: 195.194.75.225

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Hi Joseph, Darrell and Corey, Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my article. Iím glad that you found it of interest. I fully appreciate why most people tend to focus on what they consider to be the negative aspects of stuttering Ė I did that for many years. Thatís the way our minds operate (if we allow them). However, if we give the matter closer consideration, I think that we can, invariably, find things that have had a positive effect upon our lives. For example, I have gained an immense insight into the psychological aspects of stuttering and, indeed, psychology in general. As a result, I have changed my life beyond all recognition. Until I decided to deal with my stuttering issue (in 2000), I knew absolutely nothing about the value of expanding my comfort zones. It is an essential ingredient of personal growth for everyone, not just those who stutter. Challenging ourselves (by doing the things that we fear) helps us to grow as human beings. It gives us greater confidence to undertake even more daring challenges, revealing parts of us that we did not know exist. I have also learned how to monitor my negative thoughts and, in effect, run my own brain. When we dwell upon something negative (maybe an unpleasant or unsuccessful speaking situation), it increases its power over us. Every time we re-think a negative thought, it grows stronger and stronger. We have the choice whether or not we allow them to remain in our heads. I have also learned how to become more assertive; I have employed creative visualization (making positive images of what I wish to see happening in the future); and I have become proficient at anchoring on past positive experiences. (I prefer to focus on the good things not the bad). :-) In addition, I have acquired considerable information about the belief system, self-image, and the influential role that the subconscious (or unconscious) mind plays in our daily lives. Dealing with avoidance strategies in relation to stuttering has impacted greatly upon the overall (positive) way in which I live my life. I'm having so much fun and feel that I have travelled a considerable distance along the road to self-actualization. I am now doing the things I have always wanted to do - even things that I believed lay outside my scope. Have fun when you next meet up for therapy. Kindest regards Alan


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