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Don't fear the future

From: Marija, Croatia
Date: 03 Oct 2004
Time: 05:02:19 -0500
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Dear boy and dear girl, when I was your age I wish someone told me that my school years will be the worst regarding my stuttering. I thought, "if this is how it's going to be for the rest of my life, I am so doomed". I am sorry I had wasted so much time and energy worrying about the future: how am I ever going to find a boyfriend, who will hire me, how am I going to buy meat for my family at the butcher's... And life turned out to be so good; I am so happily in love, I have a job and I live a life so normal it borders with being boring. Hooray!!! So whatever your darkest thoughts are NOW about your future, I assure you that IT WILL BE THE OPPOSITE. There is no need to worry now about what will happen in 10 years time, because so many factors will mix in your life by then and there is NO WAY that you can know what these factors are. So just sit back and live a day at the time. Write down your thoughts and then when you read them 5 or 10 years later, you'll see how much you have changed and how much stronger you've become. Be aware that you cannot start solving stuttering by sitting in your room in silence. It can't work that way. Imagine you're a president and you're being given tons of questions about this and that. Think what you'd answer. Our tendency is to agree on others' opinions just to escape a public spotlight, so we end up not having opinions of our own, or not being sure what we think. Having opinions and attitudes about something is very important in order to have a positive self-image. And you know stuttering has a lot to do with this. I wish you all the happiness in the world (and hope you find my homeland on the map!). Marija

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