Helping Children Deal with Teasing and Bullying

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From: Marilyn
Date: 10/9/01
Time: 8:02:09 PM
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Hello Steve – thank you for your kind comments. I absolutely agree with your comments regarding the damaging effects of apparently “mild” teasing. It is vitally important that children and all adults do not make assumptions about the effect of a tease. What is extremely hurtful for one child may be a mere annoyance for another. I think it is important for students to learn that “mild” teases can be very damaging. Also, children become very adept at hiding feelings and students must not assume that not showing upset does not necessarily mean that the teased child is not upset. There is sometimes a very fine line between teasing that is fun and teasing that is bullying. Older children and adults are quick to point out that teasing is sometimes a very important part of their relationships. Jovial teasing can and is an important part of many relationships, however, being able to discern the difference between teasing that is fun and teasing that is hurtful is a topic that I think we must come back to several times in discussions with students.

Regarding our children who stutter, yes, I agree that they are at a disadvantage- hence, as you have said, the need to develop alternate strategies and especially the need to help the child build internal resilience and belief in self .

Thanks again Steve and I wish you well in your work with the children.

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